Sister

Ok, now the story.... First a list of the players...

My Cousin by Marriage "S"
My Sister "H"
My Grandmother by Marriage "HG" (she is the bio Grandma to Cousin and Sister)
The AntiChrist "AC" who is the father of Sister, Evil ex-Step father to Me, Uncle to Cousin, Son of Grandmother and Brother to Aunts "K" and "C"
Aunt "K" is the mother to Cousin "S", Daughter of Grandmother "HG", Brother of AntiChrist and Sister "C"
Sister "C"...well, you get it
And last but not least....Uncle J...Dad of Cousin S, Husband of Aunt K, Brother in law to AntiChrist and Aunt C, Son in law to Grandmother HG, and Uncle to Sister H

Last week, HS was hospitalized. She's 93.  She had a bladder infection and dehydration. My Cousin S called me to tell me about it.  As a matter of fact, we were talking about it that Wednesday morning..how she was getting older and not be surprised if she ended up in the hospital.

So I told my Cousin I would be there after work. She's been through a lot with her Mom, Aunt K being in the hospital for the entire month of December and going through her own journey.  Now with her Grandma HG in the hospital...well, it's a lot for one person to bear. So I go to the hospital and they're still in Emergency since 10:30 a.m.  Aunt K is getting tired so I volunteer to stay with Grandma HG until she gets situated in a room and fed.  This doesn't happen till around 9 p.m., but we had ourselves a hell of a singsong and I learned some new and interesting things about this woman.

After I left the hospital, I called my Cousin to let her know all was well, and update her on the current situation. The next morning I send a text to my boy to let him know that his Great Grandma was in the hospital, but that she's ok and she'll be out soon.  As a courtesy, I texted my sister to let her know because if she found out the boy knew and she wasn't told, it would become a serious issue.

The next update comes from my Cousin.  Apparently, my sister was at the hospital to visit, and brought roses.  When she walks in, she sees my cousin and says hello.  Then proceeds to say hello to Aunt K, but she calls her Aunt C.  Aunt K corrects her.  After the niceties are dispensed with, my sister proceeds to tell my (Her biological) Cousin that she doesn't feel that it's right that she's informed of  Grandma's condition by a "Third Party".  She then proceeds to regale cousin S with the sordid tale of her bad, mean, rotten sister (ME) keeping from her the fact that her favorite Uncle in the whole world had passed away,...they were so close, and since her mean sister (Me) would do something like that, Cousin S needs to make sure that she informs my sister directly of anything happening in the family.

SIDEBAR - Yes, there was an incident. But what happened was this "uncle" had passed away like three years before I found out. When I did find out, I happened to mention it to my sister and mother. My sister became unglued that I hadn't informed her.  I told her that:
1.  I didn't know he'd passed away 3 years earlier
2.  That this was her side of the family and was not my responsibility to keep her informed
3.  That if she wants to know what's going on on her side of the family, maybe she should keep in touch, and
4.  Her own father knew of the uncles passing and didn't tell her. So if she's gonna be pissed, be pissed at him!

Back to the story - So Cousin told her that she hadn't informed anyone in the family and that the reason why I was called was not for Grandma HS...but for her, as her support.  After the course of the visit, both Cousin S and Aunt K asked my sister not to mention that Grandma HS was in the hospital to her father, the AntiChrist. They needed more information, and he's in no condition to drive and worry about something he can't change. So let's wait till we know more information.  My sister agrees and then leaves.

Next thing my Cousin knows...she's getting a call from her Mother that evening.  The AntiChrist has called her and demanded to know her daughter S's relationship to me.  Are we close? Do we do things together?  Why do I know whats going on with HG before his own daughter does?  She's upset and confused by the barrage of questioning that the AntiChrist has unleashed on his own sister.  Cousin is upset! Is it not enough that she's dealing with her Grandma, and her Mom, but now she has to deal with this shit? She texts me to let me know what's going on and breaks down the story for me.

Wait a sec...I refused to tell my sister about her favorite beloved Uncle passing away???  I call my Cousin and remind her..."Do you remember about me telling you about this?  THIS IS YOUR DAD SHE'S TALKING ABOUT...UNCLE J!!!"  WTF???  She is royally pissed now!  She says "You didn't know my Dad died till after the fact.  We weren't talking and when we finally connected, and I told you, you were heartbroken.  You loved my Dad.  She was never around...didn't know where we lived, never called or anything!  How could this be her favorite, beloved Uncle?"  She remembered me telling her about the situation, and now she's even more pissed off!  She vows to call my sister the next day.

The next morning, I call my boy and tell him "My telling your Mother about Great Grandma HS has unleashed a shit storm, so from here on out...because you're my Son, I will tell you everything. But I will no longer tell your mother anything.  She's ruined whatever nice gestures I'd do for her in the future.  While I will not involve you with the details, just know that if you choose to pass on the information to her, that will be your choice...not mine.  If Cousin S wants to tell your mother anything, she will do it, not me.  Ok?"  He agreed and said that he understood.

Cousin calls sister and asks if she has a moment to talk to her.  Sister says yes and asks if Cousin needs help with Grandma.  Cousin says no..the reason she's calling is to find out why Sister lied to her and her Aunt and told her father (the AntiChrist) about Grandma HS.  My sister said that she felt that her Dad had a right to know about his mother.  Cousin says "If that's the case, why didn't you just tell us that you would do that...and why would tell your Dad about "Dizzy" (Me) knowing about HS before you?  She then informs my sister about the shit storm unleashed on her mother by the AntiChrist and how her Mothers health isn't that great and should not be exposed to the barrage that her Dad put her through.  My sister makes excuses and says that her Dad had a right to know.  My Cousin tells her that she wanted to believe my sister has changed, but now realizes that it's not the case...she's as self-centered as always. My sister gets indignant and asks my cousin if she's called to "bitch her out or have a calm conversation"?  My cousin replies..."No, I pretty much called to bitch you out".  Cousin then points out the obvious to her....If it wasn't all about you (my sister), you would've called your Dad and told him about his mother..and that's it!  You would've never mentioned your sister (me, Dizzy), and the fact that she knew before you.  Once again...it's all about you, and not our Grandma!  It get's heated and swear words are flying.

The fun part of this is...Cousin never had a chance to call sister out on her "Beloved Uncle" story.  So my sister has NO idea that everyone knows she's full of shit.  She has NO idea that the beloved Uncle that she's told everyone her sister has deprived her of the information....is the father to her cousin, whom she told this crap story to.  I wonder what's going to happen when she finds out that she's outed herself on her lies.  Hmmmm...  I don't know, but hold on to your asses, cuz this is gonna get really good!!!

Something tells me that I'm going to do a bit of suffering between my Niece and I over this, but it won't last long.  My sister is smart enough to realize that if she tries to keep my Niece from me, she's old enough to know what's going on and resent her mother for it. She can't afford to lose yet another child over her stupid decisions...after all, she lost the first two.

Stay tuned for the next episode of "As Dizzy's World Turns".