The Boy

Well I finally heard from the Boy today. He has not called since he left on March 3rd. Seems he isn't doing as well. He's walking with a cane and is on muscle relaxers. He also takes Ambien and is apparently hallucinating at night and scaring his young wife. He says he's having memory problems and has to carry around a note book so he doesn't forget things. It bothers me that the military hasn't figured out what is wrong with my boy. It bothers me more that my boy is not pro-active about his health.

I asked him what he's doing to help himself...has he researched his symptoms on the web? Does his doctor have a prognosis? What about physical therapy? Has he looked into any Holistic answers? The boy has done nothing, really. I know his hands are tied by the military and he's trying to get a CAT scan to see if that may be something, but, he should be researching the web for as much information as he can possibly find.

I explained to him that "he's not even 20 yet and he's walking with a cane. He still has 70 to 80 years left to live...Is this the way he wants to live them? Some day he's going to have kids, doesn't he want to play with them and be an active parent?" I told him that he needs to be far more aggressive in his health and his life. "You are the Captain of your ship and you have to steer your course...I can't do that for you". "You've told me that you're an adult and that you can handle your business, so you need to do that...I can't do the research for you!" I think he got what I was saying, but he's still young and has to learn that no one can do it for you. You have to bust ass to do it yourself.