My Boy...

Is hurting.  He's learning, the hard way, just how difficult his Mother can be.  Remember, I'm his Mom and my sister, his biological Mother, he calls "Mother".   She managed to fling one of her indescretions in his face, and he  put his foot down.  He hasn't spoken to her since the incident...I'd say about 2 months.

We just had Mother's Day, and he refused to call her.  She did, however, send him a card...didn't write anything in it, but the card said "Please Forgive Me".  He's pissed over the card.  She is clueless.  She hasn't figured out what he wants...what he NEEDS to hear from her.

He needs to hear an apology.  Not just a simple apology...but a heartfelt one.  One where she takes ownership of her actions, describes what she did wrong, exposes her heart, and says " I made a big mistake and I'm so sorry I hurt you".  I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but I doubt that will ever happen.  Why?

Because my sister will have to admit she fucked up. She was wrong, she made wrong decisions and that is something she doesn't do.  It's the reason why our relationship will never be mended.  My boy wants from her what I want.

I want her to stop blaming me for stealing her son, for having a relationship with her son's Mother, for having a special relationship with her daughter.  I want her to own her damn choices and that her choices are the reasons why things ended up the way they did.  It's always everyone else's fault but hers!  Really?

This is your SON!  The most important lesson you can teach him is how to take ownership of your fuckups and apologize for them. Not jab at him and make him bleed because he stood up to you over something you did.  The fact that you had to make him hurt and not take the high road tells me that you still do not understand the sacrifice that it takes to be a mother.

Happy Mothers Day to me...cuz I get it!  I get it all, the meaning behind being a mother, being a mother to your son, being a friend to your other son and being a special Auntie to your daughter.  I got the best gifts of all...due to your choices.  You lost, and I won.  And even with this win...for the sake of my Son, "S's" Son and your daughter....I still wish you could've stepped up and be the Mother they needed, because in my heart, I know it would've been better for them.