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We woke up and he was harassing me about sleeping
in…What??? It’s only 7:30 a.m.,
really? I get up but need coffee badly, so I made some. He made me breakfast and started
talking about how to spend our day. Unfortunately, he also noticed that I took
a chunk out of my big toe nail and said that I needed a pedicure….”Where are
your clippers?” Yes, he clipped my toe nails for me, would you believe it?
I asked him what he wanted to do and he
said that he’d let me decide. I
knew he hadn’t seen much of SacTown or the surrounding areas, so I told him
that I’d take him for a drive. I
took him into Rocklin, and drove up Taylor Road (Historic Route 40) through
Loomis, Penryn, Newcastle, Ophir and up into Auburn. I told him that I used to make this commute every day for work, which he couldn't believe. But I love to drive, so I didn't really see it as a hardship (now the gas expenditure was definitely a hardship!!). We crossed the Foresthill Bridge and got out of the truck to
walk the span.
As we started walking, he asked me the question again…you
know the one…”After the ex and you broke up, did you ever hook up?” I was frustrated because it seemed like
he didn’t believe me. I stopped
walking and he went about 20 feet ahead and realized that I wasn’t with him. He turned around and I lowered my
sunglasses and gave him ‘the glare’.
He came back and said that he found it hard to believe since we’d been
together for so long. I couldn’t
figure out what was so difficult about my answer. I explained again “I worked really hard at my marriage. I gave it everything till I didn’t have
anything left to give. When I got to the point where it was irrevocably broken,
I got out and didn’t look back. I just could not get back on the rollercoaster
any longer. Yes, I still love him,
but I’m not in love with him. We have a Son and so we’re friends to keep
everything on an even keel. I’m never going back, nothing has changed.”
I understand being a little unsure since I’d been in a
relationship for so long. It would be horrible to put your heart into a
relationship, only to have the person go back to their ex and leave you
stranded and hurting. You’d feel
like you risked it all for nothing. I wouldn’t want that. However, I can’t go back…it would kill
me. Nothing has changed and the circumstances of my exit are still the same. I
think we’re cool now.
We came home and he made me lunch and we got ready for my
Niece’s birthday party. Yes, he
volunteered to go and meet my Mother, Sister and Niece. It was so cool. There was chaos brewing between the
girls at the party (Beanie invited 6 girls to spend the night) and one of the
girls called the others ugly and fat, so there was crying. My guy said he would handle it, went
upstairs and a half hour later, the girls are all laughing, dancing and having
fun. We’ll just call him the
“pre-teen whisperer”. Mom likes
him and I think the jury is still out for my sister…but I expected that. He
called her on her stuff and that never goes over well on her. We had a nice
time and some laughs, but after a couple of hours, I needed to escape, so we
headed to “On The Border” in Roseville and sat on their patio. Afterward we headed home.
There was a point during the day where he'd asked me a question. I don't remember the question, but I answered it right off, and he looked at me funny. He said that he was amazed that I just answered it...like we'd been together for years and it just was. But that's how this visit went. It just clicked. It was like we knew what we were doing and used to being together. It just felt right.
When my Mom saw us together, she said that he reminded her of...me. That I'm outgoing, willing to introduce myself to people and just have fun. Personally, I think he's better at it than I am, but we are alike in that sense, and it doesn't bother me that he introduces me to everyone he runs into. Like I tell everyone...This Marine could charm the panties off a Nun! Shhh...he's Catholic, so he might not like that reference....
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