The Curse of Family

No, not all family…but there’s always someone in the mix that likes to frak everything up.  In my family…it’s my sister, hands down! Last night was no exception.

I got a call from my mother. My sister had told her that her boyfriend was paying for the rental car for my Boy (our boy, i.e. she’s the natural mother and I’m the adopted one) and she’s expecting us (i.e. my Mom, me and the ex) to kick in for his other expenses.  She also said that she had contacted “S” (the wonderful Mom who adopted her other son, my Nephew, - at birth) and S was going to put some money to the cause.

BDDS –

1.       Where the hell does she get off saying she expects something, especially without a phone call to me?  Do you not think I may have already discussed these plans with my Boy? Do you not think, as his parent, that I know what my responsibilities are? Like you could ever tell me.

2.       Where the hell does she get off expecting my mother to kick in when her income is limited?

3.       But the biggest infraction…WHAT THE EFF DOES SHE THINK SHE’S DOING CALLING S???  Hasn’t this woman done enough by adopting your son, taking care of him through thick and thin, then suffering through is passing away? REALLY?  You are every inch the bitch I think you are!

My Mom doesn’t know S well enough to talk to her about this whole fiasco, but I do.  So I pick up the phone and call.  No, S hasn’t heard from my Sister in a year.  Ok, my sister is just a lying, manipulative scum!  I was so upset over the whole thing and now I’ve managed to involve S in this crap.  Of course, she wants to help out with the boys visit, but it isn’t necessary.  His Dad and I can handle what needs to be done. But really???  My sister just takes this to a whole new level.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again.  When my niece is grown, I never have to be a part of my sister’s life again, and I’m really looking forward to it.  When a person doesn’t bring any benefit to your life, other than their child, what is the point? I can put up with her for my Niece’s sake, but after that…all bets are off!

On a different note:  I saw another reference to text fighting and the person answering the query put it perfectly “Stop fighting (communicating) by text. Texting strips away context, facial expression, voice inflection and elaboration, also known as everything human beings use to indicate their tone”. 

Wow! Too bad I had to learn that the hard way.  Don’t get me wrong, I’d been pissing and moaning about too much texting and just didn’t say it as well as the aforementioned reference.  But text fighting is a HUGE mistake. So many things can be read wrong in a text fight. Thought that quote was worth sharing.